How can I help my heart to heal? 🐠

Our heart is one of our most important organs. It’s the organ that keeps us alive and helps us to breathe. Without it, we simply aren’t. It’s not like a kidney, where we can live without one. Or a brain, where a part can be damaged but the rest still functions fine. Or a spleen or appendix, even, where we can do without. Our heart is vital to our existence and we are very much connected to and wrapped up with it.

But our hearts are also our emotional centres and whatever happens to us happens to them. A bereavement, a betrayal, a rejection, a loss… all affect our heart. As does a compliment, a hug, a confession of love. Words and actions can lift, energise, empower and heal, as well as hurt, harm and destroy.

How we treat our hearts, therefore, and how we allow others to treat them, is pretty important if we want to lead healthy, happy, full lives.

We have all suffered heartbreak. We have all experienced harsh words and actions. This isn’t what is important though. It’s what we do afterwards that counts. Emotions themselves aren’t dangerous. There is only danger when we harbour them and refuse, whether consciously or unconsciously, to let them go.

Oceana reminds us that our emotions are like the ocean. She also reminds us that we are all connected to this one huge body of moving, flowing energy, as wide and as vast and as deep as the ocean herself. By tapping into that energy and that water, by sitting still and questioning and then quietly, patiently listening, we can hear what our body and heart want us to know.

Heart communication exercise:

Place one hand on your heart and another on your belly, tuning into your life force. Take your time to feel out the gentle movement, the energetic pulse. Listen and ask yourself what you hear. Look and allow yourself to see. When you feel confident, ask a simple question that you know the answer to and wait for a felt response. For example: Should I make myself a green juice, should I take a walk, should I go to bed earlier tonight than I usually do? Unless you are allergic to certain vegetables, injured and unable to exercise and/or already getting enough sleep,the answer to all of the above should be a yes. Then you ask something that would be a no. Like: should I drink this Coke, should I smoke this cigarette, should I cut off all of my hair? These questions, or similar, will give you a sense of what is yes and no to you energetically. And then you can move on to the real questions, like: is he/she/they good for me, am I in love with him/her/them, should I accept his/her/their proposal, etc? Using this method you can energetically tune into your heart centre and your solar plexus and make better, more loving decisions about your life.

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What do I need to know right now? ☁️

To me, gentleness is a soft cushion, a fleece blanket, a warm hot water bottle, a cuddle with my dog. It’s winter tea, raw chocolate, fresh fruit. Gentleness is meditation, yoga and yoga Nidra. Gentleness is satsang, kirtan and classical music. Gentleness is The Gilmore Girls and Friends, and a hundred romcoms…. Gentleness is a friend’s hand on your arm, a smile from a stranger. Butterflies are gentle. Rabbits are gentle. If we are lucky, our inner voice is gentle too.

Gentleness reminds us to act more kindly and to think before we speak. Gentleness is about how we conduct ourselves and how we show up for others. Gentleness is a way of being, a way of seeing, a way of travelling the world. But Gentleness wants us to remember ourselves too, because it’s an inner act as much as it’s an external one. In fact the inside job starts first.

How gentle are you with yourself when something happens?

How do you treat yourself and allow others to treat you?

Gentleness starts at home and we begin with our inner child. When he/she cries, we need to reach out to honour, hold and soothe them. We need to be the best parent and good at holding space. For only in learning how to stand up for and speak on behalf of our inner selves will be be able to see, hear, help and heal the inner selves of those who surround us.

Gentleness is not therefore about being a wimp, but more about being a lioness. Be kind to those who are kind to you, but do not be ungentle inwards. If someone’s behaviour is harmful and out of line, it’s ok to roar.

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When will I meet my soulmate? 💍

One of the most common questions I’m asked, and people in readings ask in general, is: “when will I meet my soulmate?”.

The next is: “is he/she my soulmate?”.

From the minute we are born, we are all searching for love. More than anything else in this world, it is what we want the most. To be seen, to be heard, to be respected and held: these things are powerful. With the ‘right’ love, we get to experience them – and, in doing so, continue to evolve and grow in a way that is both comfortable and meaningful. In the embrace of the ‘right’ love, we get to be our best selves, whilst living in and being supported in a nurturing and encouraging environment. With the right love we develop confidence and curiosity and we cultivate interest and adventure. With the right love our hearts remain whole even when they get broken. It protects us, sustains us; we are stronger.

But finding that ‘right’ love, that ‘perfect’ match, that person who truly gets and respects us, is the difficult part and, sadly for most of us, not our reality. Rather, we journey through relationships suffering all kinds of hurts, subjected to multiple infractions and indignities; sometimes wounded, sometimes broken and pulled apart; sometimes beaten, sometimes violated and raped. And yet, somehow, despite it all, perhaps in spite of such hardship, we continue: never giving up; constantly hoping, always trying to do better and get more.

How can we help to speed the process up and get to our soulmate faster? How can we avoid all this pain? 

The Lovers card portrays a beauty contest where Paris, the Trojan prince, has to choose between three goddesses:

1. Hera, the wife of Zeus, offering him a place in the world and a home upon its surface. She has created a position of power and authority and is queen of it.

2. Aphrodite, the goddess of love, promising sex and intimacy. She can walk naked without shame and seduce men without guilt. She is both is love with and at home within herself.

3. Athena, the goddess of wisdom, proffering loyalty and support, ready to fight for the things she truly believes in. She has strength and stamina and the courage to do what is right.

They stand there on the grass, as if on a stage – presenting their gifts, permitting themselves to be judged.

Do you know these women?

Are they in you?

How well are you acquainted?

Are they balanced and of equal strength?

This card is all about decisions and choices and when it comes to finding your soulmate and making a connection with them, you need to honour and balance all of your parts. Work on balancing your inner gods and goddesses and getting yourself ready for your soulmate. You will attract the right mate, the person you are destined to be with, when the healing work inside yourself has been more thoroughly explored. And remember, too, that if you have to stand on a platform and be judged, if you are selected only for your assets – you castle, appearance or fighting power… the ‘he’ or ‘she’ who selects you is not your true mate.

The Temperance card depicts Iris, goddess of the rainbow. She represents balance – between night and day, the sun and the moon, masculine and feminine, and the conscious and unconscious. In Greek mythology, she is also known as a messenger, carrying messages between heaven, earth and hell. And in some myths… she is known, too, for giving birth to Eros, the god of love. Here she reinforces the message of the Lovers card: balance yourself equally, embody and embrace all of your parts, strengthen where you are weak and temper where you are overly strong, stitch yourself back together, piece by piece, in a way that more accurately represents who you were before life interfered and began unpicking you. As Iris does, step into the river of healing and allow your to inner waters to flow, releasing all of the trauma and pain you have collected inside and stored. Measure out what you would like to release, cup by cup, while always ensuring one foot is firmly planted on the life-giving belly of the earth.


The Ace of Swords shows us Athena once again, echoing the Lovers card, encouraging us to really step into and embody and embrace this part inside of of ourselves.

How do we feel about her?

How often is she active?

Is her presence a light or a dark one?

Once we have done the integration work of the previous two cards, along with the necessary balancing and healing, we are in a position to safely step into ourselves as Athena, moving forwards into our proper and rightful future in order to claim what we want. This card tells us that we will be ready, that this future is out there. But first we have to climb some steep mountains and pass beneath some moody skies, and there might be a few obstacles ahead of us too… As the Lovers card asks us to decide, so here there are decisions to be made. What do you need to cut loose; who… in order to realise the life and the circumstances for which you were truly intended?

 

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Will this relationship last? ⛩

Relationships are tricky and complicated things. Whenever there is more than one person involved, there are more feelings, memories, wounds and past experiences to be taken into consideration in the union. And, if we or our partner, be they our actual partner or our desired partner, have traumas that have yet to be released, the landscape gets more muddled.

Hurt people hurt people. Lost people don’t know how to find themselves, let alone find and be there with you. Abandoned children aren’t very good at connecting and communicating. And that’s just the start.

This reading aims to help you to work out if this relationship is a keeper, and then, if you decide it is, offer up some guidance about how to keep it.

Make a tea.
Grab a blanket.

Get comfy.
Settle in for a slightly bumpy ride.

The Emperor presents to us a person who is aloof, unreachable almost. He sits upon his lofty throne in his far off, hard to reach, kingdom, protected by his armour and his minions. He is cold, hard and unmovable, stuck in his ways and fixed on his points. His opinions are like rock upon which your quiet voice is rebuked and silenced. This person is trapped in the past, fighting distant childhood battles only they are privy to. In the present they are distant, sad, shut off. The harder you try to reach them the harder they push back. Perhaps feelings of unworthiness are the issue? Beware of their anger, it is like a mighty fire that will try to consume you. Treat them with care like you would a wounded dog, for cornered they will likely bite. This is who they are right now, if nothing else changes. Their mind is fixated on their work and on empire building, it is them against the world, and you, my dear, are part of that world too.

In order to get close to them, you first have to find a way to lead them to heal. This work is not for the faint hearted.

The Knight of Pentacles offers some hope, for this is who this person can become if they take action. This will require looking directly at the things that scare them the most and the things they have spent their life trying to run from. It might well be triggering and release some pretty powerful emotions. And if you are standing too close you might well get hurt. But the way is clear. Instead of focusing on their own empire, working solely for themselves and their own gain, they need to step down and join the people, becoming part of a common goal. In service to a greater population, they will find a more righteous path and in doing so release and heal what they have long been carrying. The key is in turning their passion, their goal, their desired means of income and career, into one that can help many people. Essentially being of service. For in healing others we, in turn, find ways to heal ourselves.

If you would like to know more about what is going on right now and would also like to hear more about my thoughts… I discuss the things that are coming up for me and how I am attempting to mother, manage, navigate and clear them in my own life on my YouTube channel in a section called A Little Light.

There are also lots of tarot card readings covering the pandemic, as well as love, relationships, career, health and life, etc.

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Thank you, I love you, I am because you are.

Do you have special people in your life that, when they are around, when they text you, email you, phone you or you in-person meet up, light you up? And if you do, who are they and are they the people you would wish, expect, pick..?

I have a handful of precious people and each day I thank God for their love. I’m not sure who I’d be or how I’d fare without them. And I think what makes them even more special is the fact that even with their trials and troubles, of which they have many, they have space and time for me; little old me, to them, is important.

One of those people was my grandmother, who sadly passed away almost nine years ago now. As a child she was such a positive influence to me, such a vessel of supportive, un-judgy love. When she died she left a gap and I still miss her most days, but I do talk to her too, and I smile at her advice. She has a way with words. She doesn’t mix things up.

Another one of those people is my aunt, and I guess because she is further away in terms of location and because our relationship has been on and off over the years, I’m constantly stunned by the room she allows me in her heart. If I had to pick one breast, one pair of arms, to curl into when I’m upset or sick, when I’m needing a mother… it would be hers. I feel I could completely relax there. And also, no matter what, be myself.

I have three more relatives who I rate pretty highly, an unofficial mother-in-law, and a surrogate island-side mother. They are all wonderful, special, precious people; there if I need them but not necessarily able to be constant in my life.

And then there’s my dog, who I honestly could not live without. Not only is she loving, loyal and totally present; she’s forgiving, gentle, patient and kind too. And the most magical thing: if I’m sick or hurting or crazy inside, she knows just where to lie to make it go away, or at least feel better.

Who are the important people in your life?

How do they show up?

What do they give you?

Do they know what they mean to you?

This weekend, write them a letter, send them a email or better yet drop in or give them a call… let them know how important they are. Just as we appreciate it when people thank us for a job well done, or for a nice thought or effort, so do those around us too. And it’s such a little thing.

So, to all of my nearest and dearest, those mentioned and those held silent… thank you, I love you, I am because you are.

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Tomorrow Land


Imagine yourself as being okay right now exactly as you are: whole, complete, perfect; nothing wrong on the inside or out; no need for tweaks, improvements or changes: open and trusting; pure.

Can you imagine this?
Can you embrace it?

Then you have just created tomorrow.

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Words To Live By…

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Happiness never derives from power over others.
And peace never comes from getting your own way.

Look, therefore, to be strong with, not strong over – this includes those in the world, those in your home; your own thoughts, feelings and emotions, and whatever else may be lurking inside your proverbial bed.

The best way to experience positive emotions, cultivate happiness and enjoy greater moments of inner peace, is to give it away. Make someone else feel good, special, important… and you become twice as good, special and important too. Make someone else feel beautiful, cherished, loved… and you become twice as beautiful, cherished and loved as well.

Give without harbouring an agenda, abandoning your need to receive or exact payment in return. Share as often and as graciously as you can, not only material objects but also your time. Include, invite, incorporate, conjoin; put together when- and -wherever possible. We were designed not only to cohabit but also to co-employ. We are are better in partnership.

It doesn’t get any purer than this, and it’s all so simple.

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Wishing you love, miracles and Beanie Boos, xxx.

And this is why…

• love: is everything that speaks to your heart,
• miracles: are all of the things that touch apon your soul,
• and Beanie Boos are all that is soft, warm, fluffy and cathartic to your inner you.

I wish you knowledge that you are loved and the deep resonance of it in your body.

I wish you magic, wonder, amazement and regular pleasant surprise.

And I wish you faith and belief in the world around you and in the beauty and glory of the human race.

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Learning to dance again

Opening a closed heart can be dangerous;
especially if you have not adequately prepared.
Just look at Pandora and what happened to her!
In the end though, there is no other way:
denial only prolonging what will one day find a way out.

Navigating extreme feelings –
emotions that threaten to overwhelm
the casing in which they reside –
I battle the urge to run backwards,
something external holding me to the floor.

Placing hands on parts I have for years now
happily suppressed – suffocating, starving,
ignoring… until they appeared to die –
I listen as they wake back up:
hungry, angry, needy.

Tears fall, sobs escape, screams wrench
and I keen like a mother grieving an infant: open, raw, exposed.
And while it might take a while,
for the denial runs deep:
even this small freedom is a respite.

by Rebecca L. Atherton

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In subtle ways

Standing in the shadows, I cannot see you.
Walking behind me, I miss the help you give.
Yet you are there; people attest to this.

When the sky is grey,
when the land is wet,
when the air is cold and crisp;

when my body aches,
when my heart is heavy,
when my mind is full of clutter:

a flash of colour,
a burst of song,
an unbidden smile,

a stranger’s kindness,
a shaft of light,
a falling feather…

In subtle ways on countless days
you light my journey
and I feel your love.

by Rebecca L. Atherton

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