One of the most common questions I’m asked, and people in readings ask in general, is: “when will I meet my soulmate?”.

The next is: “is he/she my soulmate?”.

From the minute we are born, we are all searching for love. More than anything else in this world, it is what we want the most. To be seen, to be heard, to be respected and held: these things are powerful. With the ‘right’ love, we get to experience them – and, in doing so, continue to evolve and grow in a way that is both comfortable and meaningful. In the embrace of the ‘right’ love, we get to be our best selves, whilst living in and being supported in a nurturing and encouraging environment. With the right love we develop confidence and curiosity and we cultivate interest and adventure. With the right love our hearts remain whole even when they get broken. It protects us, sustains us; we are stronger.

But finding that ‘right’ love, that ‘perfect’ match, that person who truly gets and respects us, is the difficult part and, sadly for most of us, not our reality. Rather, we journey through relationships suffering all kinds of hurts, subjected to multiple infractions and indignities; sometimes wounded, sometimes broken and pulled apart; sometimes beaten, sometimes violated and raped. And yet, somehow, despite it all, perhaps in spite of such hardship, we continue: never giving up; constantly hoping, always trying to do better and get more.

How can we help to speed the process up and get to our soulmate faster? How can we avoid all this pain? 

The Lovers card portrays a beauty contest where Paris, the Trojan prince, has to choose between three goddesses:

1. Hera, the wife of Zeus, offering him a place in the world and a home upon its surface. She has created a position of power and authority and is queen of it.

2. Aphrodite, the goddess of love, promising sex and intimacy. She can walk naked without shame and seduce men without guilt. She is both is love with and at home within herself.

3. Athena, the goddess of wisdom, proffering loyalty and support, ready to fight for the things she truly believes in. She has strength and stamina and the courage to do what is right.

They stand there on the grass, as if on a stage – presenting their gifts, permitting themselves to be judged.

Do you know these women?

Are they in you?

How well are you acquainted?

Are they balanced and of equal strength?

This card is all about decisions and choices and when it comes to finding your soulmate and making a connection with them, you need to honour and balance all of your parts. Work on balancing your inner gods and goddesses and getting yourself ready for your soulmate. You will attract the right mate, the person you are destined to be with, when the healing work inside yourself has been more thoroughly explored. And remember, too, that if you have to stand on a platform and be judged, if you are selected only for your assets – you castle, appearance or fighting power… the ‘he’ or ‘she’ who selects you is not your true mate.

The Temperance card depicts Iris, goddess of the rainbow. She represents balance – between night and day, the sun and the moon, masculine and feminine, and the conscious and unconscious. In Greek mythology, she is also known as a messenger, carrying messages between heaven, earth and hell. And in some myths… she is known, too, for giving birth to Eros, the god of love. Here she reinforces the message of the Lovers card: balance yourself equally, embody and embrace all of your parts, strengthen where you are weak and temper where you are overly strong, stitch yourself back together, piece by piece, in a way that more accurately represents who you were before life interfered and began unpicking you. As Iris does, step into the river of healing and allow your to inner waters to flow, releasing all of the trauma and pain you have collected inside and stored. Measure out what you would like to release, cup by cup, while always ensuring one foot is firmly planted on the life-giving belly of the earth.

The Ace of Swords shows us Athena once again, echoing the Lovers card, encouraging us to really step into and embody and embrace this part inside of of ourselves.

How do we feel about her?

How often is she active?

Is her presence a light or a dark one?

Once we have done the integration work of the previous two cards, along with the necessary balancing and healing, we are in a position to safely step into ourselves as Athena, moving forwards into our proper and rightful future in order to claim what we want. This card tells us that we will be ready, that this future is out there. But first we have to climb some steep mountains and pass beneath some moody skies, and there might be a few obstacles ahead of us too… As the Lovers card asks us to decide, so here there are decisions to be made. What do you need to cut loose; who… in order to realise the life and the circumstances for which you were truly intended?

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