Category Archives: Guidance

How can I improve my relationship with my sister? 👱🏼‍♀️

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When it comes to relationships, family can often be the area where we carry the most emotional baggage because it’s likely we have to tread more gently and be more mindful about what we say. Perhaps when we were growing up it was ok to throw a tantrum and scream and shout and pout and cry until it was all wrung out of us, the hurt and the infringement fully discharged? But as adults a degree of order and decorum must be followed and that’s where the problem lies. I’m not saying we should all carry on like ten year olds forever after until we die…. just that they have a point, because their battles, although loud and all-encompassing, don’t last very long. They disagree. They clash. They blow up. Things are dicey and uncomfortable for a while. And then there’s a thawing out and things get cleared. A biscuit and a cup of juice usually do it.

Adults are so much more complicated. And, as a result, subject to a lot more pain. When we were young a fight could usually be negotiated into resolution by an older sibling or parent. It wasn’t just up to us. We had help. Other people cared. Things were taken into hand. And if talking alone failed to remedy the situation, a bag of sweets, a week with our favourite doll, sleeping in our bed overnight or joining us on a sleep…. over could easily bridge the gap.

As adults, we have to think more deeply about our approach and apply more lasting and meaningful solutions. Sometimes, a bunch of flowers might be enough. But more often than not it requires difficult conversations and a whole heap of grovelling and forgiveness.

This reading is intended to help you to move towards harmony and union… and away from distance and despair.

Loving Words reminds us about the power of language and how words can either harm or heal. This card is a call for action and an invitation to make amends. When was the last time you said something nice to your sister, just because? Or when you complimented and praised her? How much love and appreciation do you pour into your relationship? No matter what has happened in the past, and no matter how much hurt has passed between you and possibly still exists, words are seeds, and if you plant nice ones, kind ones, like roses or pansies… pretty things will grow in their place. Plant pretty things and watch what rises to greet you. 

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The deck used is the Affirmators! Family deck by Suzi Barrett. You can find out more about it here.

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There are also lots of tarot card readings covering topical issues, as well as love, relationships, career, health and life, etc.

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How can I do better at work? 💪🏻

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I got a new deck in the post today which I have been waiting for for a long time. The Pandemic shut our borders for a month or so here and then, ever since, things have been slow. I was so excited to receive it, I couldn’t wait to share, so I decided to let you participate in my first perusal.

This reading is a two-card pull exploring how to improve at work.

The cards that came up were Listening and Bravery; one a good reminder and the other a gentle nudge.

Listening is important in all areas of life, but especially so in business. Regardless of what you do, if you are good at listening, people will be more likely to respond well and invest, either with their time and energy or with their commitment and cash. Listening isn’t just about showing up with a bum on the seat though; it’s about shutting your mouth (and even, metaphorically, your eyes) and really opening your ears. It’s about being 100% present with no other agenda. If we listen like we really care and are silent and simply hold space, the gift we give to that other person is tremendous. We all know from experience what it feels like to be really listened to and heard, to be given the space and the time to just speak. We know too what the other extreme feels like, when the person we are attempting to connect with is distracted and doing other things. One gives us energy and joy, comfort and communion. The other empties us out, filling us with frustration, igniting our anger, causing us to weep. One is a gift. The other a theft. Practice how to show up. Be mindful of the quality of your listening. Look to improve upon it wherever you can. Perhaps, too, go back and apologise to those you may have failed to properly serve.

Bravery, although not vital, is pretty important too, especially when it comes to supporting our business and/or our career and especially when we are really trying to grow. Without bravery we cannot learn new things, explore novel avenues, put ourselves out there. Without bravery we cannot make that phone call, write that email, post that blog, mail that newsletter, upload that video, follow up with that prospect, take that course, go on that business trip, attend that interview, present in that meeting, team up with that employee, approach that marketing company or publisher, etc… Bravery pushes us out of our comfort zone, forcing us to grow. And while bravery requires our vulnerability and surrender, it also promises to gift us generously if we are open to exploring the places it requires us to go.

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The deck used is the Affirmators! at Work deck by Suzi Barrett. You can find out more about it here.

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If you would like to know more about what is going on right now and would also like to hear more about my thoughts… I discuss the things that are coming up for me and how I am attempting to mother, manage, navigate and clear them in my own life on my YouTube channel in a section called A Little Light.

There are also lots of tarot card readings covering topical issues, as well as love, relationships, career, health and life, etc.

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How can I find more joy?🥛🥛

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In a world full of bad news and hardship, where at every turn and click unhappiness is projected outwards, it can be hard (even for the most fortunate) to remain untouched. For those who are experiencing their own dramas; who have suffered rejection, abandonment, betrayal and loss… finding and holding onto that joy can be that much more difficult.

This reading is intended to give you a broader perspective, along with gentle guidance, on how you can better manage and walk your life path.

The Queen of Swords 🗡 encourages you to sit proudly upon your throne, the mistress of your queendom. There has been hardship, difficulty and loss and, at that, there has been (and still is) pain. This has stretched you and grown you and strengthened your resolve. It has given you your wisdom and access to your inner truth and outer voice (even if you haven’t found ways to honour and express it yet). Pay attention in this hour of searching and questioning to practices that can help ground you. Focus on your feet and your foundations. Work to really anchor your roots. Plant, not just your feet, but your legs, spine, throat, neck and head also. Your voice is your super power, a channel for expressing the very essence of you, but your feet are your roots and it is from them that the food, energy and life force you need to think, act and do is delivered. Create a strong channel. Knowing and owning your truth, honouring and feeding it, is the surest way to reunite with your joy.

The Five of Cups 🏆 I nvites you to take the road less travelled, to leave behind that which you once held dear but which has ceased to support you. It has cast you out anyway, so you might as well stop lingering on its threshold, eternally lamenting over things past, and instead turn towards the future and walk away. Your coveting the past, hoarding it’s memories in the hope that with time and focus you can bring them back, is like a dark-cloud cloak completely enshrouding you, and the sun, despite its valour and strength, struggles to get beneath it. Focus not on the three overturned cups, the opportunities, relationships and things that you have lost, but on the two remaining cups, the cups that are full. Express gratitude. Nourish and nurture them. Spend time honouring them daily. Then pick the empty cups up and (treating them like they are opportunities, brand new seeds that you can grow) work out how you would like to fill them.

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If you would like to know more about what is going on right now and would also like to hear more about my thoughts… I discuss the things that are coming up for me and how I am attempting to mother, manage, navigate and clear them in my own life on my YouTube channel in a section called A Little Light.

There are also lots of tarot card readings covering topical issues, as well as love, relationships, career, health and life, etc.

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What is the biggest obstacle 🚧 that stands in my way right now?

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There are many stages in life, each of them with their own hurdles and hoops. Some of these are easy to overcome, others not. Perhaps, too, as we get older, the direction we are supposed to follow becomes less clear, so it’s not so much jumping the hurdles or navigating the hoops but knowing where they are located to begin with. No one ever said it was supposed to be easy, but sometimes it seems overly hard.

This reading is intended to help you to see those obstacles, arming you with the knowledge to move past them. Whether you are single and looking for love, unemployed and looking for work, unwell and striving for health, etc., there is usually a reason why things aren’t working out and finding that reason can be the key to receiving the ‘all’ you desire, deserve and want.

The Four of Pentacles 💶 represents where we are right now and shows us the obstacle. We see a man of moderate wealth clinging onto his possessions for fear of losing them. He strikes us as someone who is deeply insecure, perhaps suffering from imposter syndrome, who, despite having gained experience, wealth, knowledge, skill, respect, notoriety, etc., still does not trust himself (and, as a result, others). It indicates that the real obstacle – between you and love, friendship, success, health, etc., – is your (dear, sweet, wounded, yet-to-be-fully-rounded, vulnerable ) self. A painful truth, but useful nevertheless.

The Justice ⚖️ card then moves on towards the answer, another painful truth, but one with the means to release us from the bars and the chains of our own psyche. To get what you want, i.e. remove the obstacle, you must undertake a thorough examination of self. Imagine a court, with yourself as the accused and/or the victim. Introduce two lawyers: a defense attorney and a prosecutor. Now role play through a trial, in which you interview yourself thoroughly. Don’t just accept the answers: look for holes in the truth, act upon the notion of guilty until proven innocent, ask difficult questions, get to the heart of the matter. You might think you are doing everything that you can, that your behaviour is exemplary, but there are areas where you are sabotaging and blocking yourself. Find those and you have something to work with. Essentially, we are talking about a core wound that has been left to fester.

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If you would like to know more about what is going on right now and would also like to hear more about my thoughts… I discuss the things that are coming up for me and how I am attempting to mother, manage, navigate and clear them in my own life on my YouTube channel in a section called A Little Light.

There are also lots of tarot card readings covering topical issues, as well as love, relationships, career, health and life, etc.

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Do I need to be worried about this and if so what can I do? 🤸🏻

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When we have something on our minds it can be hard to find peace, which makes it hard then to do all of the things that people usually suggest. Meditation requires mastery of thought. Yoga demands embodiment. Prayer honesty and surrender. If our mind is too busy, our body in pain, our hearts full… all this is uncomfortably intimate.

At times like this a good conversation can help, so long as the ear is gentle, grounded and generous, a bit like the cards, who serve as a great second best when that ear is hard to locate and often have better advice than any one person, independently, is able to give.

This reading addresses a ‘something’ that might be weighing on our minds, whether that’s rooted in love, life, health, career or finances. I feel like the focus might be more to do with health, but how you receive and interpret it is personal to you. Whatever speaks the loudest is likely the message you were meant to receive.

The Hanged Man invites us to adopt a broader perspective, and to allow for other points of view. Imagine watching an episode of your favourite series over and over, each time from the vantage point of a different character. By the end of it you will have multiple versions of the same reality, all different because one person’s truth is different from the next, etc. This is the invitation here. Try on different hats. Walk in borrowed shoes. See what fits. You have options and you get to decide.

The Two of Cups then encourages us to reach out, taking the information we have gained and weighing it up against the intuition and wisdom of a carefully selected other. In a health reading, it indicates things should be coming back into balance very soon.

This reading indicates that, with a different perspective and way of looking at a problem, a path to an alternative destination can be found. We know this because the Two of Cups promises a favourable outcome and a return to balance. Maybe we just need to surrender our current point of view, opening ourselves up to the possibility of multiple realities and multiple outcomes on a quantum level. Our future is malleable. It changes from moment to moment with every decision we make. If we can find ways to make better decisions, educating ourselves as much as possible in multiple things, in things we might not even believe in at first glance, we can change what is true for us right now. 

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If you would like to know more about what is going on right now and would also like to hear more about my thoughts… I discuss the things that are coming up for me and how I am attempting to mother, manage, navigate and clear them in

my own life on my YouTube channel in a section called A Little Light. There are also lots of tarot card readings covering topical issues, as well as love, relationships, career, health and life, etc.

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How can I help? 🤱🏻

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When someone we care about deeply is unwell, whether that be emotionally or physically, serious or minor, it can cause concern and when they are unable to communicate with us, for whatever reason, that can grow. Perhaps we feel helpless, hopeless, heart broken and weary? Frustration about not knowing how to help – and all attempts at trying failing – might be keeping us up at night. Then there could be anger at the Universe, at God, at the health professionals, at our family or partner, and at ourselves… and these thoughts and feelings, although natural, are all getting in the way.

So what can we do to help?

This reading is intended to give you a little guidance and some pointers on what to look out for and where to start.

Temperance reminds us to keep balancing – our actions, our point of view, our beliefs and our thoughts, for what we focus on manifests. If we want health and healing, a return to vitality… we have to stay positive. Everything in moderation. Keep trying new things. Keep alternating your approach. Remember, one foot in the water of possibility and hope, in the realm of magic and imagination, and the other on the ground of logic and realism and what we know. A little bit of everything and not all at once.

The Seven of Swords serves as a bit of a warning, perhaps about medications, for it is a card of deception and stealing and what I see here is the concept of stealing from tomorrow in order to pay for today. If the seven swords are seven pills, make sure the solution you are adopting into isn’t one falsely labelled as hope. Do your research. Look outside the box of convention. Search for alternative solutions. Be careful, too, and take your time. Before you make a decision, make sure the information you take inside and choose to believe is your own and not picked up another way. If the camp we see is the camp of medicine – perhaps big pharma with all of her bells and whistles and pretty promises and bows… what are the possible side effects and consequences her little box or bottle might have?

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If you would like to know more about what is going on right now and would also like to hear more about my thoughts… I discuss the things that are coming up for me and how I am attempting to mother, manage, navigate and clear them in my own life on my YouTube channel in a section called A Little Light.

There are also lots of tarot card readings covering the pandemic, as well as love, relationships, career, health and life, etc.

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Will this relationship last? ⛩

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Relationships are tricky and complicated things. Whenever there is more than one person involved, there are more feelings, memories, wounds and past experiences to be taken into consideration in the union. And, if we or our partner, be they our actual partner or our desired partner, have traumas that have yet to be released, the landscape gets more muddled.

Hurt people hurt people. Lost people don’t know how to find themselves, let alone find and be there with you. Abandoned children aren’t very good at connecting and communicating. And that’s just the start.

This reading aims to help you to work out if this relationship is a keeper, and then, if you decide it is, offer up some guidance about how to keep it.

Make a tea.
Grab a blanket.

Get comfy.
Settle in for a slightly bumpy ride.

The Emperor presents to us a person who is aloof, unreachable almost. He sits upon his lofty throne in his far off, hard to reach, kingdom, protected by his armour and his minions. He is cold, hard and unmovable, stuck in his ways and fixed on his points. His opinions are like rock upon which your quiet voice is rebuked and silenced. This person is trapped in the past, fighting distant childhood battles only they are privy to. In the present they are distant, sad, shut off. The harder you try to reach them the harder they push back. Perhaps feelings of unworthiness are the issue? Beware of their anger, it is like a mighty fire that will try to consume you. Treat them with care like you would a wounded dog, for cornered they will likely bite. This is who they are right now, if nothing else changes. Their mind is fixated on their work and on empire building, it is them against the world, and you, my dear, are part of that world too.

In order to get close to them, you first have to find a way to lead them to heal. This work is not for the faint hearted.

The Knight of Pentacles offers some hope, for this is who this person can become if they take action. This will require looking directly at the things that scare them the most and the things they have spent their life trying to run from. It might well be triggering and release some pretty powerful emotions. And if you are standing too close you might well get hurt. But the way is clear. Instead of focusing on their own empire, working solely for themselves and their own gain, they need to step down and join the people, becoming part of a common goal. In service to a greater population, they will find a more righteous path and in doing so release and heal what they have long been carrying. The key is in turning their passion, their goal, their desired means of income and career, into one that can help many people. Essentially being of service. For in healing others we, in turn, find ways to heal ourselves.

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If you would like to know more about what is going on right now and would also like to hear more about my thoughts… I discuss the things that are coming up for me and how I am attempting to mother, manage, navigate and clear them in my own life on my YouTube channel in a section called A Little Light.

There are also lots of tarot card readings covering the pandemic, as well as love, relationships, career, health and life, etc.

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How can I find the right mentor? 👳🏽‍♂️

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Finding a mentor is a really good way of navigating out of a block, whether that block is worry, fear, confusion, apathy, grief, procrastination, boredom, frustration, anger, hate, overwhelm or fatigue. But with so many distractions – the world today is non-stop, 24/7 – it’s hard to know who to look to or trust. Add to that the number of options – you can’t open your inbox or Instagram or Facebook account right now without being bombarded by fitness instructors, cookery, coaching and health coaches, etc., – it’s almost claustrophobic, verging on being suffocating before you even start. Maybe it even feels easier just to retreat and let things lie, hoping that sooner or later the chaos will die down and it will be easier to come out?

This reading is intended to help you to cut through all of that, picking up the first crumb of a fresh trail. Then, with a little sustenance, with a bite or two inside, the journey will feel that much easier.

Our first card, The King of Wands, indicates where to start: with your creativity. Whether you are talented at cooking, painting, sewing, knitting, pottery, print work, scrapbooking, needlecraft, singing, songwriting, creative writing, poetry, etc… find someone whose creations you admire and who inspires you and read, watch and listen to what they have to say. Let their interests and beliefs inform you, breathing fresh energy and life into what you already possess.

The Chariot, our second card, then reminds us pick a side, and to take care whose mission we attach our fire to. We need to choose what energy resonates – male/female, light/dark, sun/moon, etc., – and allow that to steer us true. Mentor secured, the message is to pack everything you have learned (making space for everything you will learn), and start running after it, picking up the crumbs along the way. The further you travel and the more crumbs, the clearer your own path will be. After all, food heals, nourishes, encourages, comforts and inspires. And what better food for the mind than inspirational words.

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To stop you from becoming overwhelmed, I suggest the following things:

Limit the voices. More is not always merrier,

Choose one or two people who you are drawn to and who you resonate with and start there. Spend a week or a month or longer solely in their space. Then, once you feel like you have learned enough and would like to broaden your knowledge base, you can add another one or two.

Treat it like an apprenticeship. Show up every day. Make a commitment. Be on time. Take notes. Do your homework.

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If you would like to know more about what is going on right now and would also like to hear more about my thoughts… I discuss the things that are coming up for me and how I am attempting to mother, manage, navigate and clear them in my own life on my YouTube channel in a section called A Little Light.

There are also lots of tarot card readings covering the pandemic, as well as love, relationships, career, health and life, etc.

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How can I heal my thyroid 🦋 and speak my truth?

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Today’s reading is all about the thyroid and the throat chakra, an energy and a physical centre of much angst and confusion. We all struggle to speak our truth, some of us more than others. Childhood, schooling, life experiences… have pushed it into corners. Each slight or harsh remark. Each person who ignored us or shut us down. Each failed attempt at expressing what was in our heart. They all impact our confidence in who and how we are. Perhaps you suppress your truth in order to appeal or appease? Perhaps life is simply simpler that way. Perhaps owning your truth, your real you, would rock a steady boat?

Wherever you are in regards to that voice, that truth, it’s ok. This is not supposed to be a short journey or one you are meant to reach the end of too soon. It’s a continual expanding and growing, one that you will continue to nurture for the rest of your days. But your throat and your thyroid, if they are speaking/hurting, indicate stagnation and blocks, and this is what we want to be focussing on here. 

This two card reading will help you to do just that so that you can be you with more confidence.

The Page of Pentacles shows us where we are, which is actually a pretty good place, even if we might not currently think so. No matter how we feel and what we are experiencing, we have done a lot of work and moved a long way. Now, however, we are stuck, in that place of looking to others, higher powers, for answers… and maybe we have asked and learned all there is to know… and done our done due diligence and our apprenticeship… and are actually ready, armed with enough experience and learning, to go into the world? It’s time to take a deep breath, man (or woman) -up and trust. You’ve created and crafted a beautiful seed. Now you need to plant it.

The Knight of Pentacles is the perfect next step and partner to the Page. The future and the solution lie in finding out what tree that seed will grow. What is your calling? What is your cause? Who are you really supposed to be? Point yourself in that direction, take a deep grounding breath, and put your feet into action. One step at a time, checking in daily, follow that yellow (solar plexus, intuition, gut instinct) bricked road.

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If you would like to know more about what is going on right now and would also like to hear more about my thoughts… I discuss the things that are coming up for me and how I am attempting to mother, manage, navigate and clear them in my own life on my YouTube channel in a section called A Little Light.

There are also lots of tarot card readings covering the pandemic, as well as love, relationships, career, health and life, etc.

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Healing the wound of disconnection 🦥

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Quarantine and sheltering in place; a.k.a., “staying the f**ck home”, has brought up a lot of things for a lot of people and I wanted to address some of them here in the coming weeks. I’m going to start with the issue of community and our connections… namely who we currently are and are not in contact with.

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Community and Connections pros and cons:

Pro: Not being able to go out and not being able to see each other – combined with the threat and the fear surrounding the actual virus – has led to an onslaught of text messages, phone calls, people from times long past emerging to reach out to us, and daily communications with people who we might not ordinarily have spoken to for many months. This is a bonus and is community and connection positive because it has brought new people into our lives, increased the regularity of our contact with those we already had, and perhaps too prompted some apologies and some making up.

Con: But, simultaneously, it has also led to others distancing and detaching themselves in order to process and deal with and medicate things in their own more solitary, isolated way, and thus, in turn, has caused many uncomfortable and challenging emotions for those left on the outside with an absence of a person-sized hole to deal with.

Con: There is also the issue of polarisation and the awareness of the strong and very different points of view that everybody suddenly seems to have, most likely you too, which may have led to conflict and separation and perhaps even fallings out.

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With this in mind, I have recorded a reading to address this subject.

Question 1:

What’s going on with ………….. (insert name of person) right now that is causing us to be disconnected?

Question 2:

How can I reach out and connect with ………….. (insert name of person) in a way that will strengthen/heal our bond and relationship?

Answer 1:

The Knight of Wands shows us that this person (who we care about and miss, or who we feel separate from) is on a mission and is absorbed by their cause. They are on fire with enthusiasm and energy for it and everything that it represents and stands for and are therefore of a single mind and distracted from everything else in their life. It is not personal. It is not about us. It is simply that their calling has arrived and nothing else beyond it can be heard. This means that past relationships may be subject to neglect for a time as they find their way to and along their new path.

Answer 2:

The Seven of Wands reveals a battle, unevenly pitted. It is you and one or two others against the remaining four or five. In this battle you are undecided, one foot in each camp. To deepen your connection with this person or to heal what feels injured somehow, you must first pick a side and then be prepared to stand up for what you have chosen to believe in and, if necessary, fight.

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If you would like to know more about what is going on right now and would also like to hear more about my thoughts… I discuss the things that are coming up for me and how I am attempting to mother, manage, navigate and clear them in my own life on my YouTube channel in a section called A Little Light.

There are also lots of tarot card readings covering the pandemic, as well as love, relationships, career, health and life, etc.

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